Why it’s time to drop the myth of the ‘midlife crisis’

What’s the point of the midlife crisis? Not the actual experience, but the term. In the half-century since its coinage, “midlife crisis” has become a bloated catch-all thrown around reflexively to express our every unexamined bias, deep-seated fear and trite mockery regarding middle age. If we are going to understand our 40s in all their […]

Why are women still being shamed for breastfeeding in public?

Since becoming a mother 2-1/2 months ago, I have viewed breastfeeding as a natural and beautiful act, but this past weekend, it became a source of shame. Unable to find babysitting for a charity fundraiser hosted by the Lambton Golf and Country Club Toronto last Saturday night, I brought my son Jacob to the event. […]

When a wedding guest’s joke falls flat, is it worth getting riled up?

The question Recently, at our daughter and son-in-law’s wedding, a friend of the father of the groom told a long, drawn-out and very inappropriate joke, monopolizing the time for speeches. You may have heard it: It’s about a guy who goes again and again to buy condoms and aspirin to the point where the pharmacist […]

Where is the love: How tolerant is Canada of its interracial couples?

Is love the last frontier of racial bigotry in Canada? It’s a question that intrigues Minelle Mahtani, who has dared to ask whether interracial couples and their families still test the limits of tolerance in this country. In her recent book Mixed Race Amnesia: Resisting the Romanticization of Multiraciality in Canada, Mahtani, an associate professor […]

How do we manage nana’s drinking without causing embarrassment?

The question My grandmother, who for most of her life drank nothing but coffee, recently, in her 70s, after my grandfather died, discovered alcohol. Now she likes to drink – a lot, to the point where it’s become a problem at family gatherings. Both my father and my mother, who are separated, have tried various […]

How to cozy up with a perfect cuddle this fall

Don’t expect to launch straight into an advanced cuddle position. A good cuddle requires the person you’re snuggling to feel at ease, says Hasnain MirZa, founder of the Montreal professional cuddling service CuddleMe. Start with a chat. Ask your companion open-ended, non-judgmental questions about themselves, such as “How’s your day so far?” or “How are […]